Sarah Stultz: Ups and downs of having a child with epilepsy
Published 10:00 pm Monday, June 18, 2018
Nose for News, By Sarah Stultz
I equate my journey of having a child with epilepsy to that of riding a roller coaster.
Some days, weeks and even months we’re smooth-sailing along. Sometimes it’s going so well that before long, we find ourselves climbing and climbing, almost to where for a split second we can daydream about life without epilepsy. Then, we reach what seems to be the top of the ride, and we begin to fall.
Sometimes the drop is steep — your stomach drops and you’re clinging onto the bars of the seat for dear life — and you get jerked around, hoping the ride will soon be over.
Other times the drop is not as steep and is quick — just a little dip before going back up or evening off and you can find relief.
No matter whether the drop is long and steep or quick and not as steep, it still surprises you every time it appears.
The same is true with this epilepsy ride — sometimes things seem to be going well before all the sudden you’re dealing with another flare-up of seizures or medication changes that produce difficult circumstances.
We’ve been in one of those drops for about a week and a half now, hoping the ride will soon even out or start to climb again.
As with other life challenges, we’ve learned that even though we may think of giving up, or we may feel like we’re going to lose our lunch on one of the steep drops on our roller coaster ride, we must keep going and keep hope alive.
I found this poem by a man named Greg Van De Moortele that was posted through the Epilepsy Foundation that illustrates it well. I think it is applicable to anyone with a medical challenge — or any life challenge — though it is written specifically with epilepsy in mind.
“The Fighter”
As the fighter enters the ring
Several thoughts race through their minds
What are they now facing
Putting their previous fights behind.
When diagnosed with epilepsy
That patient enters the ring
Their fight now commences
Awaiting what it will bring.
The fighter wins round one
Placing points on their card.
They accept their condition
Knowing the future may be hard.
The first medication fails
Giving the opponent round two.
Advice, and support in their corner
Allows the fighter to continue.
Rounds three through six
Are all considered a draw.
Each medication did assist,
But each one had their flaws.
During the seventh round
The fighter lets down his guard
A large seizure has occurred
Hitting the patient very hard.
Things begin to brighten
Throughout rounds eight and nine.
No seizures have taken place
During this stretch of time.
Now begins the final round,
One of many bouts,
It falls to the judges scorecards
But it was a win without doubt.
When a medication is tried
But does not succeed
Consider that round a draw
And continue to proceed.
To be titled champion
The patient is completely seizure free.
Whether it be controlled by medication
Or cured by surgery.
This is everyone’s goal
Neurologists and patients alike,
But until that day arrives
You must persist in your fight.
To the friends out there who have been dealing with medical illness and other challenges: Stay in the fight.
Sarah Stultz is the managing editor of the Tribune. Her column appears every Tuesday.